Chapter Two: The Sister and Other People

My dear feline friend,

So you're interested in someone but he seems to be playing it cool?

If he has a sister, you're in luck! Try getting on her good side. Be her friend, better yet, finnagle your way into being her pal. "Like" everything she posts on Facebook, even if it's just a location "Check-in" at a train station.

Publicly empathise with her complaints, when she's sick, when she's late for work, when she just saw a movie on a Saturday night.

Chat with her every chance you get. Remember her birthday, her boyfriend's name, her favourite food.

Why? Because a friend of the sister becomes a friend of---you got it---her brother.

It works just as well, if not better, with the guy's good friends. If you both have mutual friends, find out who he is close to and work your way into building a rapport with these people. Afterall, if they like you, they will only have nice things to say about you to him. And chances are, they might even include you when they hang out.

It goes without saying that you should utilise Facebook to connect with these people as often as you can. Of course, this depends on how strong their presence is on the social network. If they are frequent posters, you're in luck.

I've come to realize more and more that Facebook, for all it's wonderful ways of connecting longlost friends and overseas pals, is a powerful weapon of illusion. Don't forget it is a very public domain, and names get linked together the more people see the names in the same posts and updates and comments.

For instance, whenever I see a post by a familiar Facebook contact, I can guess who will 'like' or comment on it. Rightly or wrongly, I imagine they have an actual friendship in the real world that is just being carried over into the virtual.

Commonsense will tell you that my observations here are dealing with a girl who is interested in someone. Existing friends may or may not factor into a similar equation.

If I see a guy's name frequently appearing in a girl's post, forgive me for thinking that 1) she likes him, 2) she is a close friend, or 3) she likes him and is a close friend, and that they might have some kind of thing going on. *Even if* it isn't true, a part of me subconsciously harbours the notion that somebody is flirting with somebody.

So there, use the innocuously* harmless medium of Facebook to cultivate the perception that you already have in your mind about that guy. Who knows, if other people believe it, it's only a matter of time.




* please Google the word, thanks