Chapter Four: Five Do's & Don'ts

Chic has nothing to do with fashion

This list will grow over time. Right now, a few things off the top of my slightly-addled head. 

DO:

• Play hard to get. There is nothing men like better than the thrill of the chase, the lure of the hunt. Being inaccessible, unattainable, makes you even more desirable in his eyes. 

• Up the glamour quotient. Always dress like you are going somewhere wonderful. And no, you don't have to spend a lot to look like that. Afterall, what separates us from the animals is our ability to accessorize. 

• Be yourself. Admittedly, this is tricky if you've just come out of adolescence and haven't reached your third decade. Because the self as you know it is evolving, and some days, you don't even know who you are. For some help in this area, read the third Don't. 

DON'T:

• Respond more than once in a comment thread to his FaceBook post. If at all. Unless he is insulting you in some way or another. 

• Be moody. Since time immemorial, men have always been attracted to women who make them laugh, who smile a lot, who act crazy sometimes (like cats actually do). 

• Try too hard. By this, I mean, don't affect certain styles of 'voice' on your Facebook postings. Avoid being dramatic. Avoid being too clever with punctuation and slang, unless you *know* what effect you want and how it works on the male psyche. Yes, that's a big word -- psyche -- and until you get a good grasp of what Mars looks like, remember you're still on Venus. When in doubt, remember that "funny" wins over "style" and "coolness" every time. 

I will be posting more "Do's & Don't" as they occur to me, or when I see behaviour or actions that strike a chord in me.


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